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The Bachelor was never going to produce a winner in 2016. Fake controversy and a single perspective. The show has a goal. Get the audience hooked! It’s time to realize what reality television mostly is. It’s a platform to become famous. For those who do find true love, and the bachelor is running at 50% which is quite an amazing stat when you compare to the other reality dating shows.... What should we learn from this? Nobody is perfect. We are all trying to find our happiness, our bliss. We are all navigating this thing called life. Mistakes made on TV, bring out the keyboard warriors. Hate is unleashed and what for, you won't even remember who you were hating on in 6 months or 6 years time. What is the bottom line? Read a book if you want romance. Find a good movie if you want drama.
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As girls we are taught:
Do you believe that you are not a nice person? What do you feel about yourself? Even if you know that you do nice things, and you know yourself to be nice, you can still believe "I am not a nice person". Every time we want to say no, our mind runs the filter "what if they think I'm not nice?" We then say yes when we want to say no. As a consequence we spend our lives "trying to be nice" never saying what we want. We become compliant going along with what others want. We may believe that we are nice and we do nice things, but with the conflicting belief in our psyche "I am not a Nice person" we fall victim to the inability to say no. ‘Ticking boxes’ is when you focus on the things you have always wanted in a partner. Your ‘ticked boxes’ list might contain; that the person comes from a loving family, that they are financially secure, they exercise, eat healthy and so on. When you meet someone who matches with your list, it puts you on a high and you start focusing on the future.
When we start ticking boxes on the first and second date - he has the right income, the right hobbies, the right friends, the right social standing, and all this “rightness” leads to dating "blindness" – repeating the past! When your attention is focused on ticking boxes, you stop hearing his/her faults. Save yourself time and pain by getting rid of the habit of ticking boxes. Those early dates are like a job interview – you are interviewing him to see whether he is worthy of being part of your life. You want to hear the deal breakers, and not miss them because you were too busy thinking “OMG I've always wanted someone who…(fill in the blank)…! #breakingthehabitofdatingyourpast #dating #relationships |
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