We live in a world of constant change.  Our response to that change determines the quality of our lives.

Since change is a constant we must look for the triggers that guide us to take action.  Resistance to change is one of the greatest causes of pain in our lives.  Last year one of those triggers for change was deciding "Enough is enough", once we determined that we were no longer going to stand for situations that we had been tolerating within our lives and released them, 2013 was a great year.

In choosing the path of our lives this year, and deciding on the action we will take, we are given the wisdom of "Clarity".  Clarity can come forth when the mind is removed from it's daily chatter whether by taking a shower, doing the gardening,  going for a walk and observing nature, creating a piece of art, movement - dancing, through the practice of taking 3 deep breaths each time we walk into a room... we allow the space within our minds for clarity to enter.  As clarity - the trigger for change occurs this year, send love, forgiveness-for yourself and others, and send light to the situation, then decide on the course of action based on that clarity and 2014 will unfold to be your greatest year yet.

Daily - Make the decision that today is going to be filled with joy.  This sets in motion the necessary events to create this outcome.  Ask the question of the Universe: How can I serve?  Who would benefit from seeing me today?  How can I use my skills and empathy to create a better day for someone else?

Are you great at telling your partner and work colleges what to do, but when it comes to your children you are letting them walk all over you?

Are you rewarding them for bad behavior?  Do you bribe them to do the things they should be doing such as cleaning their room?  Do you do everything for them and then expect them to do things for them-self?  
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Teenagers and children learn by your actions not your words.  Are you repeating what you say multiple times before they will take notice?   How many times do you have to repeat yourself to get them to do something?

Take action and say things only once.
These days there are several items which will immediately put your child in best behavior mode, oh they will whine!!  Your will hear "my phone is my life", "you've ruined my life" .... but you will find an amazing turn around in their behaviour.

- The mobile phone - disable outbound calls, or take the phone away altogether.

- Take away their favorite game - take it to work with you, or hide it - my children would call me and I'd tell them where I'd hidden it each day, and sometimes I just took it to work with me.

Good luck!

How does a boy of no more than two go from sweet and loving one minute to a raging bull the next.  His call to action, the word “no” .  With this one word his countenance would be broken.  The word "No" was the fuel for his anger.

A 2yr olds Anger:
One day we were sitting on the floor playing. I said no to a question he asked and l like a switch had flicked, my son was gone and a pit bull was in his place.  His hands locked onto me grabbing my cheek and opposite ear.  I peeled him off me. I knew something was wrong, but I didn't know what.

Developmental:
He also wasn’t developing as fast as his sister sister had at the same age.  He still needed to be pushed on the swing, he couldn’t propel himself.  We are told not to compare siblings but I knew something wasn't right and a mothers knowing sometimes needs to drive you actions more than what the general community says about what is normal and what is not.

Cranial Osteopath:
Around this time I started to visit a cranial osteopath as I had had rounded shoulders and chicken wings for shoulder blades.  Within 3 sessions my decades old posture had changed!  I inquired as whether my son could also benefit from this treatment.

I saw an immediate change after 1 visit.  My calm sweet boy returned.   We went regularly for the next year until funds ran low. He seemed better so we stopped going.

It was near the end of kindergarten  when I felt the impact of his short fuse returning. We were in the kitchen one day when I said No to him, and he told me “I’ll stab you with this knife” as he gestured towards the kitchen drawer.  Alarms bells went off in my head that we had never finished his treatment.  I rang the Osteopath and told her "I’m bringing him to you until you tell me that this pattern is completely gone!" 

We went once a month for the next 12 months.  By now he was in prep and I asked his Primary School Teacher whether she noticed a difference, she said she could see an improvement in him after each treatment.

My son finished his treatment at the end of Grade Prep. His anger never returned.  I am grateful for the care and attention of the two highly skilled Cranial Osteopaths who treated my son, without them I don't know how my life or his would have turned out.

NB: I never had soft drink, lollies or junk food in the house.  These treats were reserved for special occasions only.    

If you are not having the success that I did look to removing refined white sugar and refined white flour from your child's diet.  We have an abundance of different types of flours and grains now common place in our supermarkets.

IMPORTANT:
Always consult a Qualified Medical Doctor before making changes to your diet, before using any dietary supplement, natural product or before making lifestyle changes.  The information here is not intended to replace or give any medical advice or diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any health condition or disease.  The author provides life experience for informational purposes only.  The author makes no representations or warranties of any kind, expressed or implied as to the information, materials or products mentioned.