Enough with being a Nice Girl!

As girls we are taught:

• To be nice
• That if we are nice we are "good girls"
• If we are not nice we are "bad"

Do you believe that you are not a nice person?  What do you feel about yourself?

Even if you know that you do nice things, and you know yourself to be nice, you can still believe "I am not a nice person".  

Every time we want to say no, our mind runs the filter "what if they think I'm not nice?"  We then say yes when we want to say no.

​As a consequence we spend our lives "trying to be nice" never saying what we want.  We become compliant going along with what others want.

We may believe that we are nice and we do nice things, but with the conflicting belief in our psyche "I am not a Nice person" we fall victim to the inability to say no.